Personality is a key factor in defining whether or not a woman will complete her degree in engineering, or will drop out, whether a teenager will move away from their parents for studies, or will live at home and commute to university every day, or whether he or she will approach people in their surroundings openly, or will behave shy and limit his or her environment to those who approach them, or are introduced by common friends.
Some people feel better when surrounded by strong personalities: people who make a decision and stick to it,, or who listen carefully for a few minutes and then make a strong statement keeping into account all other arguments. Others feel better surrounded by more relaxed personalities: people who see no reason to accelerate a decision, and who think every moment, only keeping into account the immediate reactions, without considering any further arguments.
It is remarkable to note that not every person behaves the same way in every environment: some are shy at work, are extrovert outside work, others are shy outside work, and extrovert at home. What the reasons behind these parallel personalities are is not an answer I know, however, I have my thoughts on the topic, and believe that self esteem is strongly correlated to how why a person is. People who have high self esteem of their knowledge tend to be stronger at work than outside, and those who are happier with themselves as persons, rather than as employees, are more extrovert outside work than inside.
I belong to those who have higher esteem of their knowledge than of herself as a person, and I find it easier to work with stronger personalities than with "relaxed" ones. I am not sure if this makes me an intolerant, or a closed minded woman. I know it makes me who I am, and that while I can learn not to explode with relaxed personalities, I need to live with myself for the rest of my life, and need to accept who I am, and live with it.
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